The 6 Basic Human Needs that Can Create Your 6 Figure Year

Have you ever wondered what it takes to create 6 figures in your business...

or consistent income at least?

There are 6 basic needs that if met in your business, can create a consistent stream of income.

Every person needs these things...

every person wants these things...

even you!

So if you understand them...

and then put them into your business, showing that you understand your client through your interactions with them and your marketing...

what's possible?

What would be possible for you in your relationships too if you understood them?

Transcript

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Hey my loves, welcome back to another episode of Bold Hearts Big Moves. Okay, I want to talk to you guys about something, a concept that I have been talking to my clients a lot about. Um, a lot of my clients are working towards their first six-figure year as well and uh are wanting to heat like free up money energy, money story, etc. Right. And if you guys know my framework at all, uh some of the things that I talk about are, you know, obviously like healing what's stuck in your nervous system, that that that past trauma, or you know, what's what's really in your amygdala, what's in your nervous system, what what's there, right? We want to heal that so that way you can see clearly enough to set, you know, the unbreakable boundaries, um, be able to figure out who you are really um like the truest version of you, and then take that and turn it around to create your goals and your dreams and your desires, right? And business and relationships and family, etc., all fit into that. And so that's the framework that I usually take my people through. But there is something that I've noticed almost every single one of my clients say that they want, and every single one of their clients say that they want. And I hear this in, you know, just my basic relationships, not just on client level. I hear this from my kids, and it's true, like when raising teenagers, it's true when communicating with my spouse, etc. And it's these six basic human needs. And once we understand the six basic human needs, what's really amazing is we can turn these around and build a six-figure business off of them. And we're gonna go into uh why that is in just a few minutes. But first and foremost, let me say if you guys would like some specific one-on-one help with your business or your boundaries to create the life and the living that you love, or you want some help also opening up your nervous system so you can receive more, feel free to you know, book a call with me. Uh, you and I will sit down uh one-on-one for 60 minutes and we're gonna take a we're gonna do a deep dive. We're gonna take a look into what it is you say you want. Again, go into the version of you that actually has what you say you want and what needs to be removed so you can be that version. Okay, so if that's something you would like as well, please feel free to schedule the call. The link is in the description below. Um, and let me look it up and I can read exactly what the link is, you guys. I don't have these links memorized. I use them like how many of you guys are like me? Where you're like, you know, you use the links so many times and you just kind of like cut and paste, but you don't have them completely memorized yet. Please tell me you guys are like me. But for that link, it is the Calendly.com forward slash Aaron dash Anderson dash coaching forward slash 60 dash minute dash boundaries dash breakthrough. Okay. So if you guys would like that, please schedule that is in the description below. And with that, let's get into what these six basic human needs are. So one thing I've noticed and I've been noticing for a long time is that people really do have very similar needs and they show up differently. Um, but they do have the same needs. And at first, I always said that it's because people want to know who they are, which is not uh wrong. That's still true. People go to events um and they get into relationships and they build businesses, etc. Yes, for money, yes, for companionship, yes, for all of that. But the main reason is because they actually do want to know themselves. Relationships reveal who we are. Uh so does business. Business reveals who we are, right? We absolutely do want to understand ourselves. But there's also another piece to this. Every person I've ever talked to wants six basic things, and that is to be seen, heard, valued, validated, understood, and appreciated. And they seem so simple, but if you think about this for just a second, if you were to take away money and you were to take away, like just remove everything from you, what is the most basic thing you want, right? What do you want from your relationships? What do you want money to actually show you? It's those six basic things. If you really sit and think with and feel this for a second, you want to be seen, you want to be heard, you want to be valued, you want to be validated, you want to be appreciated, and you want to be understood. So if you sit back and you think about this for a second, you'll notice that these are the same basic things that you yourself want. If you were to like clear all the all the other noise and clutter out from around you, that is basically what you also want. Right? Um, and this is why I say like really if we were to if we were to take a look at why we want money, why we want the business, why we want the relationship, etc., it's actually to meet one of those six basic needs. We want money to help us feel valued and in a way validated and appreciated. We want the relationships to feel seen and heard, and well, all six actually, valued, validated, appreciated, and understood. Right? We do want those things, and we want these things to show up in our results. I have yet to meet a client who doesn't want these things. Um, and or really a friend, a family member, etc., that doesn't want these things. Um, I had a chat with a family member not too long ago. And if you know me, I don't take family honest clients. But I did have a chat with them a while ago about some of the things that she was feeling in her marriage, and this feeling of not being seen or appreciated or heard or validated, you know, all of these six things was a really big thing. And uh, as she was talking to me, she kind of ruminated on it and she's like, you know, I think this is a lot of the reason why I feel angry so much, is because I don't feel these things in my marriage. I don't feel these things sometimes from my kids, I don't feel these things sometimes from my mom and dad. I don't feel these things as much as I would like to, right? Now, again, you know, there's there is experience, our circumstances do lead to thought, thought leads to feelings, feelings often anchor in the thought, and we act on those feelings and thoughts, and those become our results, right? But when we can sit back and we can really ask ourselves, okay, what is it that I want to be seen for? What do I want to be validated for? What do I want to be appreciated for? What how do I want to be valued? How do I want to be heard? How do I want to be seen? If we ask ourselves, like how we receive each one of these six basic things, and how it feels to us, what it sounds like to us, how do we know if someone sees us? How do we know if we're being understood? How do we know if we're being heard? Because people can say that they hear you, right? And you don't feel it. You feel very misunderstood in the moment. You don't feel seen, you don't feel heard, you don't feel valued, validated, appreciated, or understood in the conversation. Yet somebody else can absolutely say that, well, yeah, of course I'm I see you, I hear you, and you're like, no, you don't, you don't get it. You just know, right? How do we know what does it feel like to be seen? What does it feel like to be heard, valued, validated, appreciated, and understood? Once we can understand how that shows up in our lives and how we know if somebody sees us, then you know that's how we also know if we are safe. And if you've heard or listened to this podcast at all for the last several years, uh you know that one of the biggest things that we need to have in order to create is safety, and uh our boundaries are really what create and and contain the safety for us, right? But let me explain how this looks for me, okay. If I know that somebody sees, hears me, validates me, values me, understands me, and appreciates me. This is someone who does not put their experience above mine. If I sit down and I have a conversation with them, they don't devalue what I'm saying or or uh discount it by saying yeah, but okay, but or uh but you did, right? They sit there and they're present with me, they hold their opinions to the side for just a a minute, right, to help me be able to speak, and then as they're listening, they check in. So what I'm hearing you say is, okay, I think I understand that. Is this is this kind of what it looks like? Okay, and then if they have a point that they need to make after they have actually fulfilled these things, then they can ask, okay, I have a question. I'm seeing this particular thing. What about that? Like, how does that fit into what you're saying? Right? Like if somebody's speaking to me with that level of respect, I'm feeling respected because those six basic things are being given. They're not discounting my experience, they're not putting their experience or their emotions above mine, they're simply being present with me, not taking what I say as an attack or as truth or untruth, actually. They're just listening, they're using their listening boundary very well by asking, okay, what is true, what is not true, where do I need more information? And they're using their talking boundary also to clarify, to make sure they get it, that they understand, because that's what's important in that moment, and then they try to help me understand as well. What about this? Right? Because when somebody feels these things in a conversation, when somebody feels these things in a relationship, because that person has great boundaries, right? Incredible boundaries. That boundary of I'm gonna be respectful, I'm gonna use my listening and my talking boundary to make sure that you know what they're saying doesn't necessarily affect me and my self-esteem. No, that stays with me. But I'm gonna listen to them so that way they know I care that they matter to me. Because let's be honest, if somebody isn't communicating these things to us in in that way, we don't feel respected, we feel discounted, we feel um unvalued, right? We we don't feel seen, we don't feel heard, we don't feel valued, validated, appreciated, or understood. And that's what it looks like for me. And my guess is it probably looks that way for you too. But here's the good news about that, right? Now, I may have accidentally tripped over a very, very sore spot for you in that moment because I do I have a feeling that there's some of you listening to this podcast that are saying right now, I wish I had somebody in my life that did that for me, right? This is again coming back to that uh main boundary of be your own best friend, because it's more important than anything that you give these six things to yourself. Because if you do, you're actually listening to yourself and experiencing your life with self-compassion. And when you're experiencing your life with self-compassion, you're able to help other people experience, like have a compassionate experience with you. So let's talk about how that moves now into creating money for you and creating money in your business. If you remember, something else I've also said is that your business is going to be built, yes, upon your boundaries because it's it's an extension of you, right? But it also is built upon the relationships you build because of that extension. Every dollar we earn and every dollar we give out goes to some type of relationship, and relationships have these six things in them. If you give money to Amazon, and I'm sure there's many of you that are listening to this podcast right now that have given money to Amazon, and because there's a they have a product on Amazon that you're like, ooh, I want that or I need that, right? Because that product meets those six needs, being seen, heard, appreciated, understood, valued, and validated, right? Um, one thing I recently bought from Amazon was this uh this cool little, it's like a trapezius release kind of a thing. You lay on it and it's got nodules, and those nodules put pressure on the muscles around your spine to help them relax, release, and to uh get like blood flow back into the muscle fiber. So that way you're feeling less tense, you're feeling less pain, etc. And I bought it because I it met those six needs. I felt seen because ow, I I had been dealing with back pain for a while, right? I felt heard because I talked about the back pain and I wanted a solution. I wanted something that I could do to help get some relief, right? Without having to take harmful drugs and ibuprofen and things like that into my body. I felt valued because somebody actually saw and heard me and created something to help that was validating that, hey, guess what? I'm actually not crazy. This does hurt. And that felt un that helped me feel understood and appreciated, right? Because somebody created something for this need to create to fulfill these needs in me, and that need also had basis in each one of those six needs. So of course, I bought with my money. The question now then becomes, and this is also why we as business coaches ask you like, what is your ideal client, or who is your ideal client? Whether you're a coach, whether you're a boutique, whether you uh are someone, I I actually had a beautiful client not too long ago who owned um a business that would take like big rigs and service them, right? That was her business and it worked. It was a beautiful business. She did great, right? But each one of these businesses help their clients and customers feel seen, heard, valued, validated, appreciated, and understood. And when my clients helped their customers and clients feel this in their experience with them, it was an absolute beautiful process to watch, right? Because my client became someone different. It caused them to have to set boundaries within themselves so that way their clients could have that type of an experience with them. That matters. That's a big deal, right? And the more that they focused on making sure that those clients and customers had this experience with their business, the more money they made. Because people buy and they vote with their dollars, right? Each every dollar goes to some type of relationship, fulfilling some type of need. And so if we're sitting there filling these six basic types with our business, no matter what business it is, we tend to get more clients and we tend to get more customers. So what if you're a chocolatier? What if you're a candy maker, right? How do you help your clients feel these things? What do they want? And how does that transmute into feeling seen, heard, valued, validated, appreciated, and understood, right? Maybe you have a maybe you have a customer appreciation day where you take your most popular flavor, the thing that everybody just absolutely loves, and that's what's on the sample table. And everybody maybe gets a $5 off uh for a $30 box of chocolates, right? And as they come through the line to buy their $30 box of chocolates, if you think C's candies, you know what I'm talking about. But as everybody comes through the line, somebody's there to greet them. And all they have to say about those clients and those customers is just the most fabulous things of customer experience as a chocolatier. Maybe you're creating chocolate creations that speak to that client and that customer, right? Like roses, chocolate roses for Valentine's Day or chocolate eggs for Easter, right? What of what is it that makes those clients feel seen, heard, valued, validated, appreciated, understood? Maybe you own a boutique. What is it that your ideal client wants? They want to probably feel beautiful and feminine. And so the clothes that you have there, if they look beautiful and feminine, right? And maybe you're somebody who's really cool. I have a good friend who owns a boutique, and she's super cool because she understands how to dress the different energy types. Um, think Carol Tettle there. And she has a section for each one of the different energy types, helping her clients feel very seen and very valued and appreciated, understood, right? And they're very hurt because she very personally goes in with many of the clients and asks them exactly what it is they're looking for. What do they want to feel like in their clothing? How do they want to behave in their clothing? Helping them actually set internal boundaries because a boundary, yes, we are going to behave a certain way, but eventually it also transmutes into our appearance. It often does. Okay. So uh, and same thing with if if you're a coach and you want more clients, well, how do you help that client feel seen, heard, valued, validated, appreciated, and understood? These are the six basic things that does almost always transmute into how your clients uh have an experience with you, and clients pay for what they value, right? And they value these six basic things. This also works in your personal relationships. I've heard a lot of parents say, especially with teenagers, that oh, he just doesn't listen. Oh, teenagers, they don't listen, right? And to be honest, what I have found is it's actually not the kids that don't listen. They eventually get to that point, but it's because they're not having these six basic things met. And it usually comes because the parent does put their experience above that of the child. And when that stops, and they're they are instead focused, the parent is instead focused on these six things and not putting their fears or their insecurities or the what their what-ifs on that child, that they're just simply a guide because they want the child's experience with them to be more important than their expectations, and the reason why is because that parent also understands that what that child is experiencing with them is where that child will or won't go if they're having a struggle. Our kids are going to struggle no matter what. It's inevitable. But if they have somebody to walk with and they trust some that somebody, hopefully that's a mom or dad, then they're never, at least they're never alone. And they still have someone to work out their mind with because teens are getting into that into that realization that they too also want to feel like they're valued as a human. But they're still also figuring out who they are as a human, right? And when that is when you're able to uh navigate that in safety, go to a parent and say, Hey, you know, I'm having this struggle, and mom just or dad just sits there and listens and says those same things, like, have you thought about this? What have you tried? Right? Giving the child the autonomy over their brain, letting them think, letting them feel like they actually are smart enough to figure it out. Oftentimes those kids do. And they make really, really good choices. This is something I have seen across the board with parents who teach who uh mentor their kids that way because they too are fulfilling these six basic needs, guys. When I say that these are foundational, I'm not kidding. Everything comes back down to these six basic human needs, my loves. And when they're utilized, we tend to find relationships that we love being in, and businesses that are creating exactly what we want them to. And then we also find that both of them are not separate, they're actually one and the same. All right, my loves. I hope this episode was really helpful for you. Again, if you guys would like some specific and personalized help with your personal boundaries, feel free to book that call. Let me help you also feel seen, heard, validated, valued, understood, and appreciated. And let me also help you create the cash from that foundation as well. All right, my loves. I'll see you next time. Bye.